Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/pushup/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.
— Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason.. (via lostlandofstars)
 betterbooktitles:

It’s not a cover but I’ll take it.

betterbooktitles:

It’s not a cover but I’ll take it.

(Source: thestoicromantic)

 illustration-alcove:

A Sherlock Holmes illustration by Igor Savchenkov.

illustration-alcove:

A Sherlock Holmes illustration by Igor Savchenkov.

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.
Plato (via psych-facts)
 grett:

untitled by pruginko on Flickr.

grett:

untitled by pruginko on Flickr.

 bibliolectors:

Sunday: good coffee, cake and reading / Domingo: un buen café, pastel y lectura (ilustración de Emma Block)

bibliolectors:

Sunday: good coffee, cake and reading / Domingo: un buen café, pastel y lectura (ilustración de Emma Block)

 teachingliteracy:

(by soPHie.!)
It is unimaginably hard to do this, to stay conscious and alive in the adult world day in and day out.
David Foster Wallace (via aslovelyasatree)
 
by warymeyers blog 
I can say with confidence that no man, however mature, ever loved reading for its own sake more than I. I did not read because of any particular urge for learning, or to merely pass the time, or to escape the realities of life. I read simply because I loved reading for its own sake alone. The printed page was like wine to me.
— Robert E. Howard (via wordpainting)
I wish to live a life that causes my soul to dance inside my body.
— Dele Olanubi (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
 karamazove:

Vladimir Nabokov reading Pnin

karamazove:

Vladimir Nabokov reading Pnin

People might tell you that reading is a way to hide from the world, and sometimes it can be, but in my experience, people who love books are also interested in myriad other things. They love music and movies and travel food and (gasp!) even television. As a friend of mine says, books make you a glutton for life. They show you how much there is to be experienced in the world. So let them do that. Let them make you curious. Let them make you hungry. Let them give you more questions than answers.
Rebecca Schinsky’s 5 Reading Rules for Book Lovers of All Ages on the Reading Rainbow Blog (via sevenletterswithay)
 bibliolectors:

…In the sea of read / … En el mar de la lectura (ilustración de Pawel Kuczynski)

bibliolectors:

…In the sea of read / … En el mar de la lectura (ilustración de Pawel Kuczynski)

 booksandsugarquills:

January Book Photo Challenge - Day 13: Page Saver (Bookmark)
These are some I’ve made myself, they are of some of my favourite books of last year

booksandsugarquills:

January Book Photo Challenge - Day 13: Page Saver (Bookmark)

These are some I’ve made myself, they are of some of my favourite books of last year